One of the hardest things about parenting is dealing with cries. Your kid is crying for no reason? It’s not possible – there’s always something that causes tears. Let’s find out what exactly it might be, and how to stop weeping in babies and older kids.
Why do babies cry?
It’s absolutely normal for newborns to cry – this is the way they can show emotional or physical discomfort. Moreover, the nervous system of kids up to 1 has only started forming, so their weeping might be caused by absolutely anything, and it would be a normal reaction.
Anyway, let’s find out why are kids crying for no reason.
Signs: A baby can pull its lips into a tube or open its mouth wide and pull out its tongue.
It takes 3 hours for a newborn baby to get hungry, but more and more mothers stick to feeding on demand instead of schedule. Don’t refuse to breastfeed a baby – it
Signs: A baby might get scared when you’re changing clothes or by an unexpected sound. In such case, they throw their arms out to the sides, bend and begin to cry.
Being frightened for babies is absolutely okay. It’s called Moro’s reflex, and this reaction is the ancient instinct of self-preservation, which allowed the baby to better grasp their mother in case of danger. The reflex fades to 4-5 months.
Colic and gas
Signs: The kid tightens his legs under himself, pushes and blushes. As soon as the baby’s gas leaves, relief comes.
An imperfect digestive system is the main cause of crying in newborns. To relieve pain, make stomach massage, use a warm heating pad, give baby dill water, or try a vent tube.
Must read: Easy Ways To Treat Upset Belly In Your Kid
The baby’s skin is delicate and sensitive, it can even react to any uncomfortable crease or seam. That’s why baby undershirts are sewn with seams to the outside. Dirty diapers also irritate infants’ skin, so make sure to change nappies regularly.
Starting from 3-4 months, children turn over and then crawl. When a baby feels a barrier (bedside, blanket), she might scream angrily. This happens quite often when the baby tries to roll on the stomach after sleep.
Signs: Starting from the age of three months, a baby can be bothered by itching in the gums. To relieve pain and itching, infants put different objects into their mouth, gnaw and bite them.
Stay patient and help your kid relieve pain and inflammation in gums using these remedies.
Many parents consider the cold hands and feet a sign of hypothermia and try to warm the baby so they cry from stuffiness. Cold feet and hands are absolutely normal because thermoregulation in babies is far from ideal.
Signs: How to define that the baby isn’t cold? If you put your finger under the vest on the back, you may find out that the baby is slightly sweating. Sometimes sweating is visible – you will notice small red dots on the skin in the neck and shoulders (nappy rash).
Emotional discomfort, lack of parents’ attention
To develop normally, a baby constantly needs new impressions and positive emotions, as well as parents’ attention. Infant’s desire to stay on your hands is absolutely okay, and the urgent need to see mama is as natural as hunger and sleep.
Signs: Baby is whining monotonously for a long time.
Inability to seat or return to the initial position
Many babies try to sit still in five months. At six months, their pelvic bones become strong enough to independently raise and hold the upper body. But once the babies learn how to seat, they don’t understand how to return to the starting position, quickly get tired and start crying. All you can do is help your little one lying down. With the time being, the infant will master all movements.
Desire to communicate and attract attention
Children at this age already understand jokes, distinguish a harsh tone from an affectionate one and, as a result, try to earn the approval of adults. The desire to communicate is so great that the child consciously screams to attract parental attention and warmth.
Fear of aliens
Babies start being scared of new people once they turn 8 months. Whenever you have guests, remember that baby always needs your presence to feel safer.
At the age of seven months, a baby may worry and cry bitterly in the absence of her mother. If that happens, let your infant understand that mommy is here – this will help form a confident, calm personality. Sometimes you don’t even need the baby to see you, it will be enough just hear your voice.
New products in kid’s diet can provoke problems with the stool (constipation or diarrhea), allergies and, as a result, mood deterioration. Coping with the stomach problems provoked by new foods, the continuation of breastfeeding, and the right regimen of the day will help. The new diet should be discussed with the doctor.
Now the child’s brain needs a constant intellectual recharge. Monotonous games and communication, or their absence upset the baby and cause tears. So when you see your baby crying for no reason, make sure that you maintain the balance between rest, games, and communication.
First attempts to stand
As soon as babies learn to stand without support, they constantly try the “vertical” position. But once a kid manages to get up, he does not always understand how to sit down or lie down and starts to cry from fatigue.
Ban on movements
Tired of kid’s monkey tricks, a mom can put him in the playpen. The child immediately begins to cry because there is no opportunity to explore the world. This need is genetically determined. Restriction of freedom is one of the main reasons for the “one-year crisis”.
Weaning from breastfeeding
At the age of one year, many mothers stop breastfeeding because baby’s diet contains all necessary nutrients and foods. The psychological discomfort can make the infant cry just for day or two, though sometimes the distress lasts longer. The decision on whether to prolong breastfeeding is up to you. All you can make in case of weaning is to be together with your little one, and distract his attention from breast by pacifiers, games, and so on.
Why older kids are crying for no reason?
When kids are getting older, it might be easier to find out the cause of tears: at least they can speak and explain everything. But what if a toddler cannot understand or tell you what’s wrong? There might be several reasons for tears:
- Kids might be afraid of sleeping in the night or have nightmares (that are forgotten instantly after awakening).
- A child is experiencing an emotional reaction to a busy day full of impressions. If you take your kids to vacation, you may notice such behavior – it’s the sign that brain is tired and needs rest from a load of new information.
- A kid is tired, feeling not comfortable. By the end of the day, when my daughter gets very tired, she starts crying without reason – it’s just the reaction of the nervous system. Whiny behavior lets me know it’s time to put her to bed.
- Kid’s expectations did not come true. For example, parents didn’t do what they promised. Or a child has been waiting for an even for a long time, but everything ended too quickly.
- A child cannot manage to do something (build a tower of blocks, put on clothes, pick a book from the shelf).
- Toddlers and older kids may throw tantrums just to be heard. They lack parents’ attention and try to get it any way possible. This is a typical manipulation method that toddlers like so much. Here are some tricks to stop such tantrums in the bud.
Children who lack parents’ attention throw tantrums more often than their peers
- A child is stressing over breaking of habits. For example, it happens when you change day schedule, make your kid sleep in their own room, move to another place, and so on.
- A kid has problems with mates in kindergarten or school. Sadly, some parents don’t notice when their children become victims of bullies. This is a serious problem that should never be ignored!
- Children who see parents fighting and quarreling tend to worry about it and even blame themselves for some troubles. Do not let your kid see parents’ conflicts, verbal or physical abuse!
- A child might be in a bad mood when lacking parents’ love and affirmation. Don’t forget to hug, kiss, cuddle, and praise your kid – it will improve their psychological health, not mentioning that you’ll see tears less often.
Parents’ love is the strongest remedy against crying for no reason. Kids who are praised and hugged are less likely to burst into tears.
Some kids are simply too sensitive. It especially concerns melancholic people. However, any reason for tears is still a reason. How to get a kid to stop crying over everything in such case? Learn the boundaries. As a rule, family and close friends know for sure what might hurt kid’s feelings and what to avoid.
So, what to do?
How to deal with a child that cries over everything? Some parents recommend simply to ignore weaning. Yes, sooner or later, tears will end. But not the problem causing them. Ignore tears only when you’re sure it’s 100% manipulation.
To solve the problems with a sudden uncontrollable crying toddler, I would suggest the following algorithm:
- Find out whether there’s a factor for the physical inconvenience (hunger, sleepiness, pain, uncomfortable clothes). Satisfy kid’s physical needs. Watch your kid’s diet: some artificial food dyes and flavors affect the nervous system!
- If it’s not about physical discomfort, ask your kid what is wrong. Once you find out is causing distress and eliminate the problem.
- If the kid doesn’t explain what’s wrong, analyze the environment and people around. Find out whether a little one is involved in some conflict, or there is some phobia, or it’s about how you behave.
If you realize you cannot handle the toddler crying uncontrollably for no reason, go to a psychologist (sometimes, neuropathologist’s consultation also helps). Don’t postpone your visit to doctors when you’re powerless against tantrums, because specialists may find the deeply hidden roots of distress you have no clue about.
What were the weirdest reasons for your kids to cry? Leave your answer in comments – it can help other moms deal with a similar issue.
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