How to express love to your children and let them know they are special for you? How to make them believe in oneself and motivate the little ones? I’ve gathered 25 positive phrases to tell your kids: they work like magic. You should try!
“I’m so glad I have you”
Young children believe that they are the ones who move the world, make things happen. They think that the sun rises because they want it, and in the same way, they consider themselves responsible for everything else, for example, for family concerns, accidents, quarrels. In no case say things like: “Because of you, I have to give up everything,”
“I love you no matter what”
As a parent, you know you love your kid just for the mere fact of her existence. Let them know your love is unconditional, and if they do some mistakes, it won’t change your feelings. There’s nothing worse than thinking you should deserve someone’s love – don’t let your child think so. Also, remember that there is no stronger substitute for the phrase ‘I love you!’ Say it as often as you can.
“I understand you”
Your kid is afraid of the dark? Lost her teddy bear? Got a friend leaving with parents for a family vacation? All this is a great sorrow for a child. In such cases, the kid needs sympathy and comfort. Let your little one know you understand these feelings and stay here to support and help.
“You are strong”
Children also need encouragement and approval for what parents take for granted. The words “Great job,” “I knew you could do it,” or “We are proud of you,” inspire the little person. Do not express your doubt in kid’s power: such phrases will undermine his faith in himself.
“How are you?”
You don’t need any reason to ask that. Even if you don’t see your kid upset or concerned, take up the habit to ask “How are you?” Let your kid know you care. Because sometimes children don’t show there’s something wrong.
“You will certainly cope with it”
Children can’t explore the world without failures and accidents. Don’t rush to help your kid in every single case. To become adapted to the life of adults, children must learn to independently find a solution to their problems. Instead of saying: “Let me do it myself,” you should encourage the child. Say “Try again, I am sure that you will succeed soon.” That truly raises the spirit and gives moral support.
“We are always with you”
‘No matter what happens, my parents will always help me’ – realizing that, a kid can overcome a lot of things. However, during the daily bustle, it is not always possible to put everything aside and deal with the child only. But you can console your child: “Interesting! Now I will finish my business, and you can tell me everything in detail and we will find the solution”. Apologize and never forget to fulfill your promises!
“I love spending time with you”
Let your children know you will enjoy your common activities. Time and attention are the most precious gifts for kids you can make.
“Everyone makes mistakes”
Instead of criticizing and nagging, breathe and calm down. Tell your kid it’s okay and suggest ways of solving the problem (in most cases, there are no problems at all).
“I believe/trust you”
Trust is the foundation of family relationships. Let your children know you take them seriously and believe what they say and do. Expression of trust is one of the most important phrases to tell your kids.
“I appreciate it when you…”
Express your gratitude for the things done by your kids, be that help with homemaking, studying hard, or walking a dog. That will add to their self-esteem and motivation.
“You’re making progress at…”
What can be more motivating and encouraging than props and acclaim from parents? Notice little achievements and praise for them – it will trigger further development.
“Have a nice day, sweetie!”
That’s a great way to start your morning. The boost of positive emotions will last the whole day!
Instead of blaming and attacking your child with accusations, try to figure out what exactly they have done. In many cases, kids don’t mean spoiling your furniture and breaking devices. Things happen, so don’t make the situation worse. If possible, offer your kid to make it up – that will be the best way out.
“Explain why you did that”
Some kids’ actions might have clear reasons and motivation: try to find out what made your kid act this way. An honest open conversation can help you solve the problem.
Whenever you make mistakes a s appear to be wrong, apologize sincerely. Don’t be afraid of saying “It’s my fault” to your kid – your authority won’t suffer
“It’s up to you”
Give your child the freedom of choice: that teaches responsibility and helps to make decisions.
“I’m listening to you”
Whenever your kid wants to share her thoughts or opinions, say “I’m here, I’m ready to listen to you” and engage in the conversation. Be all attention – children notice when we ignore them or pretend to be listening.
“You were right”
There’s nothing bad about admitting your own mistakes and saying “Honey, I was wrong”. In some things, kids are smarter than us!
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“Tell me more about that”
Children love telling stories and discussing events happening to them! Whenever a toddler starts describing his game with friends, or a schooler is telling you about the recent chemistry project, pay attention. Ask questions even if you’re not into the topic: what you hear will help you understand who your kids are, how they feel, and what worries them. They will appreciate you being interested in their life.
“What happened to you today?”
Family dinner is a perfect chance to discuss how you were doing. Ask your kid about how it’s going in school, and if anything interesting happened. Again, don’t forget to listen attentively.
“I’m proud of you”
“You’re awesome!” “I’m proud of being your parent!” “Good for you!” – add these to your repertoire of phrases to tell your kids. Celebrate small and big achievements, and remind your children how great they are.
Explain your little one that other people do not define who he/she is. Tell your daughter she’s the most charming and beautiful. Tell your son he’s brave and smart. Kids don’t have to be anyone else – they are perfect the way they are.
“That was good of you”
As our children grow, they acquire more knowledge and become able to make thoughtful decisions and actions. Admit that in front of your kid: let them know that ‘daddy approves of it’.
“What should I do to be a better parent?”
My parents have never asked me that, but I had some things to say. Be sure, your children’s ‘feedback’ would never hurt. Prepare to hear an honest opinion and do your best to live up to kid’s expectations.
What would you add to the list of phrases to tell your kids? Leave your opinion in comments.
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